Kiddushin 3:1

By :  Daniel Nevins 91ฟ์ฒฅ Alum (Rabbinical School), Former Pearl Resnick Dean of The Rabbinical School and the Division of Religious Leadership, Adjunct Assistant Professor Posted On Jan 1, 2008 | Mishnat Hashavua

What is the status of a betrothal?

ื”ืื•ืžืจ ืœื—ื‘ืจื• ืฆื ื•ืงื“ืฉ ืœื™ ืืฉื” ืคืœื•ื ื™ืช ื•ื”ืœืš ื•ืงื“ืฉื” ืœืขืฆืžื•, ืžืงื“ืฉืช. ื•ื›ืŸ ื”ืื•ืžืจ ืœืืฉื” ื”ืจื™ ืืช ืžืงื“ืฉืช ืœื™ ืœืื—ืจ ืฉืœืฉื™ื ื™ื•ื ื•ื‘ื ืื—ืจ ื•ืงื“ืฉื” ื‘ืชื•ืš ืฉืœืฉื™ื ื™ื•ื, ืžืงื“ืฉืช ืœืฉื ื™. ื‘ืช ื™ืฉืจืืœ ืœื›ื”ืŸ, ืชืื›ืœ ื‘ืชืจื•ืžื”. ืžืขื›ืฉื™ื• ื•ืœืื—ืจ ืฉืœืฉื™ื ื™ื•ื ื•ื‘ื ืื—ืจ ื•ืงื“ืฉื” ื‘ืชื•ืš ืฉืœืฉื™ื ื™ื•ื, ืžืงื“ืฉืช ื•ืื™ื ื” ืžืงื“ืฉืช. ื‘ืช ื™ืฉืจืืœ ืœื›ื”ืŸ ืื• ื‘ืช ื›ื”ืŸ ืœื™ืฉืจืืœ, ืœื ืชืื›ืœ ื‘ืชืจื•ืžื”.
If a man says to his companion, โ€œGo [as my agent] and betroth me that woman as my wife,โ€ but he [the companion] went and betrothed her for himself, she is betrothed [to the companion]. Similarly, if a man says to a woman, โ€œYou are betrothed to me thirty days from now,โ€ and another man comes and betroths her within the thirty days, she is betrothed to the second man.
If an Israelite woman [is betrothed] to a kohen, she may eat tithes. If he [i.e., the kohen] said to her, โ€œ[You are betrothed to me] from now and after thirty days,โ€ and another man comes and betroths her within the thirty days, then she is betrothed and not betrothed [i.e., her status is in doubt, and she needs a get from each of them]. In such a case, if she was an Israelite girl betrothed to a kohen, or a kohen girl betrothed to an Israelite, she may not eat tithes [out of doubt].

Comments

This tractate deals with many complications regarding marriage arrangements. In ancient Jewish society, the betrothal stage was separate from the marriage ceremony, yet betrothal itself effected a change in legal status between the man and woman. The use of agents, stipulations, and ambiguous declarations could all complicate matters. It was obviously essential to clarify the status of a relationshipโ€”was the couple betrothed or not? The issue of eating tithes is a convenient marker of the transition of a woman from her birth family to her husbandโ€™s family. In the last case, her doubtful status prevents her from eating tithes, whether she was from a kohen family marrying out or from an Israelite family marrying in.

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